Every bit of him wanted to show how much he loved his wife, in every way, at every moment. Wife frustrated by husbands low sex drive why does my husband have such a low libido and so little interest in a healthy sex life? Our situation doesnt seem to fit the typical reports i hear about sexual problems in marriage usually its the man complaining about his wifes lack of sexual desire. 11 tips for the spouse with a lower sex drive sexual desire flat-lined? No worries, heres what you need to do. I have always had a higher sex drive and, in the last few years at least, if i dont initiate sex, it doesnt happen. If your husband has a lower sex drive, or if you are facing hiccups of any kind, talk to somebody. And dont give up! Just because a girlfriend didnt understand you (you are so lucky to have a husband who doesnt want sex all the time!) doesnt mean you have exhausted all options. I actually have found a mix of meds that has raised my t levels to around 600 or more. Im feeling a lot better, no fatigue, etc but it has zero affect on the libido. I love, and respect my wife but have absolutely no sex drive and no desire. Loss of libido in men is not as common as in women, but it seems to have a greater effect on men. Dont worry, men loss of libido problems can usually be fixed. we both almost always reach orgasm, and i personally find sex consistently satisfying. My libido is quite low, but has never been not low, not even in past relationships or on my own. My husband is unhappy with the infrequent sex, specifically to the fact that he has to practically beg for it and wait and wait until i want it enough to say yes. Unless we go away and stay at a hotel or it is a special occasion, he will do anything to avoid the sex.