in rare cases, not being interested in sex is a sign of something wrong, and its usually easy to spot when its an issue instead of a normal phase of life. is it normal not to have sex or not to be interested in having it? Sex in australia in the sex in australia national survey , our interviewers spoke to more than 20,000 people between 16 and 69. its normal to not like sex if just because you simply dont like it. But most times people dont like sex for underlying reasons, some traumatic thing past tense like past sexual abuse alters their pespectives on healthy sexual interests, and thatll have to be remedied with some soul searching and perhaps therapy. okay, ignore the people telling you that youre not normal. Yes, the majority of the world is obsessed with sex, but that doesnt mean everybody has to be. most sex therapists agree that having sex less than 10 times a year is reason enough to label your marriage a sexless one. However, a lack of sex does not mean your marriage is in trouble. im 37 and very happily married, i dont have any medical reason and as far as i know i have no mental issues. Lol, i just really dont like sex, it is never on my mind, thank god for a very understanding husband. No he doesnt cheat either, i do have sex i just dont like to and if i never had to have it again i would be fine. The survey found, compared to 1999, there is a higher incidence of oral sex among men. So, if we exclude them, then we get a nice round number of 95 of husbands who have the opportunity to give oral sex, like to do so. If there is a double standard, im afraid the guys are getting the short end of it. , one of the authors of the normal bar, is aarps sex and relationship expert. A sociologist and author, pepper seeks to improve the lives of aging boomers and the age 50-plus audience by enhancing their relationships and offering advice on everything from sex and health issues to communication and dating in midlife and.